With all the innocence of a 7 year old, my step-daughter said recently “One day soon you will be a real mom!”, excitedly referring to her Dad’s upcoming vasectomy reversal. She soooooo badly wants a baby in the family, preferably a sister, sharing her room.
I looked at her and said “Honey, I’m a REAL MOM already! Being a step-mom to you and your brother is as real to me and you as your real mom is”.
Of course I understood what she was saying…one day soon, god(s) willing…I will be a biological mom.
But I wanted her to know that the mothering I do for them is just as important as what their “real” mom does. When the kids are with us, if I am not mothering with all my heart and soul (mistakes and all) I am doing them and myself a disservice. How much more “real” can you get than that? I mean, really!
The words coming out of my mouth surprised me as much as her.
Wow. I’m impressed with where we are now in this complicated “blended family” business, compared to where we were 18 months ago.
Woohoo!! Hope it happens quickly! A BFP that is 😉
I love your response to her, hope she ‘got’ it.
I think loving your kids whether bio or otherwise makes you a “real mom”. Great post, I love the way kids give us so much insight. I learn more from my girls that anyone else in the world. Good luck, I’ll send some positive energy and prayers your way.
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